This is a deep dive question, ya know. I call all of this the fine line of care - balancing the give and take. My biggest mantra during times like this - "Sometimes, I need to step out of GOD's way." Sometimes their pain is for them to make changes. You are giving her the tools (mindset from your other post) but its up to her. to work I on that. Louise Hay says back pain is often fear and worry over lack of emotional support, money, finances, and guilt. Is this resonating? When I pray, I pray for them but also pray for HP to help me release the worry, guilt, and MY definition of what they are going through - which of course is surrounded by my own fears. Hope this helps.....and you can always reach out if you need an ear to listen... xoxo